by Past. Luca Adamo

I have read and heard around of various proposals to render "safe" the sex, above all that one practiced from the adolescents.

I don’t think its the case to list  all these "methods", because I believe that they are famous enough.

What instead is not famous at all is the "system of God" to render safe, but really safe, the sex outside from the marriage.

Yes, because God also has His own opinion,  a method if that is what we want to call it, Regarding the practice of sex between a man and a woman.

 It is the same method that I believe and teach.

It deals with  a safe method of 100%... try to believe!

The method is called TO COMPLETELY ABSTAIN FROM HAVING SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS  OUTSIDE Of THE MARIAGE.

I know that it is not much popular and probably this will bring some criticism towards me, even if I must say that when I had taught this at the University of Rome, “La Sapienza”, I have found many that were in agreement with me, and I do not believe that it had been only for respect for the role that I represent.

I think  that in reality many youths are tired of this "fashion of sex" it’s that, even if it is in a discreet way, they are very happy to discovering that it is a fashion that God has not never advised.

The Bible does not condemn sex, neither defines it diabolic... no, nothing of all this.  What the Bible condemns is the use and the abuse of indiscriminate sex. 

And the New Testament explains it rather well how the things must go!

This is not bigotry.

This is survival!

Yes, because the problem of sex outside of the marriage is not resolved with a simple shower, but this the people do not know it, it is the devil that pays good attention not to let them know it.   And attention, is a problem that regards the saved ones as well as the not saved ones, and the fact that these last ones have more way of an "excuse" for the lack of Biblical knowledge, But does not  preserve them from the attacks of the devil.

Now, if who reads does not know these things, no problem, and Asks the Lord for forgiveness and from now on  acts in according to the Scriptures. The Lord, that is good and merciful, seeing the sincerity of the heart will not charge such a sin and will establish the brother or the sister. 

 What I am trying to say is that it really exist a safe method for sex outside from the marriage,   a method that consists in the total abstention from sex.

Easy, no?

It seems that it is a method to the capacity of all and also comprehensible to the people of every rank, race and religion.

Someone has asked me: "But Pastor, and if one is alone  and only engaged and does not get married  what is he supposed to do!?”

The answer is simple... you don’t!

You see, for has much incredible as it may seem today, you also SURVIVED WITHOUT PRACTICING SEX!

But this is also something that differentiates the man from the animal; the man and the woman do not have to be guided from their instincts, but from their will, because the instinct obeys egoistically, while the will considers and reasons, and disciplines.

Who is that who suggests, in fact without sex you can not live?

Who is that who says to the young people that to practice sex does well?

Who is that who suggests that it is better to have the pleasure (but will it be revealed real pleasure?) of sex without having to assume the responsibility  of a marriage?

Who is that teaches that the alternative is not to abstain oneself but to practice it with “caution “?

They are lying demons that do this, my brethren!

It is not true that without sex you can not live.

It is not true that to practice sex in secret does not create problems... the Bible instead says that of problems it creates some, and how!

And it is not true that the "caution" taught in the schools resolve the problems (I am referring to those cautions that they aim to practice sex outside from the marriage circle)

Because, certainly these demons don’t say anything on the spiritual consequences,  of the sex practiced outside of the marriage.

I am not referring to natural consequences, but spiritual. What

happens when one joins someone outside of the marriage circle?

What takes place in our spirit?

What are the consequences?

If someone is interested, let me  know and I will deal with that argument.

In the meantime, let me once again emphasize on this method for " safe sex", that is abstaining oneself completely from doing it if not married.

You see, it deals with an absolutely innovative method and it also presents  many advantages:

a) to abstain oneself from sex outside of the marriage does not feed the already embarrassing business of abortion;

b) to abstain oneself from sex outside the marriage does not produce any collateral effect on the person who is abstaining;

c) to abstain oneself from sex outside the marriage is not exposed to diseases;

d) to abstain oneself from sex outside the marriage does not produce senses of guilt;

e) to abstain oneself from  sex outside the marriage is not forced  to take drugs;

f) to abstain oneself from sex outside the marriage does not encourage prostitution;

g) to abstain oneself from sex outside the marriage helps to honor the partner that God has given and to see in him/her the single source from where to get it, as the Scriptures teach;

h) to abstain oneself from sex outside the marriage helps us to better select ones own friendship;

i) to abstain oneself from  sex outside  the marriage closes "doors" that for the devil would be important that they remain opened;

l) to abstain oneself from sex outside the marriage  encourages one own children  to do the same, because they learn from what we do and not only what we say;

m) to abstain oneself from sex outside the marriage preserves... the marriage!

And the more one has the more puts in... in fact, if you also see other advantages add them!

But above all... to abstain oneself from  sex outside the marriage  is a "method" that appeals  to God.

And God has not instituted this to makes us feel bad or to damage to us, but He has done it to protect us and indeed to evaluate the sex that is in the love sealed from the matrimonial responsibility finds his best expression.

I will stop here for now. I think I have been "ancient" enough, for today...

And then, hoping that you will forgive my tone with which I have faced the argument (not an easy argument indeed!), but I pray to the Lord that this will bring all of us and above all the young people in young age to meditate on their own conduct and, why not, to push themselves of one way of life that certainly would promote a style with more dignity for every human  being and dutiful for every believer.